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Cinder and Kinder

Posted on: September 21, 2011


Though cinder means coal or ashes but I being an educationist regard cinder as diamond, for coal being the foundation of diamond.  It is commonly known that diamond is very precious and as a result costly too. It dignifies and enhances the owner’s personality. The more it is translucently and vigilantly cut in shape the more pricey it is.

Children are like cinders. They need special care and kinder to grow and glow like diamonds skillfully.  Just like a plant needs air, water and sunlight to grow lustrously, so does a child needs lots of love, care and faultless training for their character building.

Having vast and rich experience in this field, I have always enjoyed working on them, for them and with them. They are the undiscovered world of valuable treasure. Each child is a world in itself. Children and flowers are true reflection of the Creator. The closer you get to them the more you cherish and relish.

When we moved to Karachi from Faisalabad I took my son Bilal to many schools for admission; but I got disheartened when I saw the books and talked to teachers. The reason was simple. Books were costly and of higher standard compared to the standard of class. The tuition fee with other charges was too expensive.

Above all, the teachers did not have adequate knowledge as expected. Bigger the building and locality, the higher was the fees. So I decided to open a school of my own where I could educate my children besides. Though I had no previous experience but love for education and children both motivated me.

My aim was to impart and instill the values and virtues in the fresh minds what we learnt from our teachers. I remember the Irish nuns, in Convent School never asked us to speak truth or be honest. They projected characteristics of a good human being practically. We followed our teachers’ footsteps religiously. I am genuinely grateful to all my teachers.

My school got name and fame in discipline, quality education and co curricular activities alike. Our students won many laurels while competing with other schools. It was smoothly running but a fatal tragedy in the family made me close down the school with a heavy heart.

After the demise of my husband I joined Mama Parsi Girls School. It was an enriching experience to teach in a renowned school. I learnt immensely from the system and also from the students. The strict discipline and amiable teaching stimulated me more. The rapport between my students and myself earned me deep regard and gratitude. Every day without fail I was presented with flowers and warm promising smiles which lessened my tensions.

I gave them nothing in return except kinder, attention and education. To make them feel grateful to Allah for giving them health from head to toe I took my class to a leprosy centre. Children gave gifts packs to the patients and charity to the management. It was a memorable experience for all.

The drive to do and pass on more instigated me to move on. I served in many learning institutions. What I found out was that every child is individually different.Thus a teacher should handle the situations according to a child’s needs and moods using psychological tactics.

There was a girl who played with flies rather than doing her test. On asking she said she wants to play. Agreeing with her she was made to sit in the patio to play with flies. After few minutes she got fed up as expected.  After that she did well in the test. Another chubby boy refused to do his test. He did not want to write because his friends were not there. When assured that his friends will also join, he did his best.

Very interesting case was of Zainab of class 1. It was final examination. She sat depressed. When asked she whispered that she didn’t know. She also requested to solve her paper for if she fails her father will beat her. Using psychosomatic tactic, teacher took her to a vacant room. The questions were read out to her and asked if she knew the answer. Surprised that the teacher did not know either she wrote the correct answers herself. When done she was very happy that her teacher did the paper for her 😀

The conclusion to this entire write up is that, a teacher has to play many roles.  At times she has to be a friend, a mother, or a strict teacher.In fact a real teacher is like a craftsman who skillfully  discovers the latent ability of a child.  Ironing out the short comings and illumining the spark prepares cinders to diamonds to serve humanity with dignity and undaunted endeavor.

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26 Responses to "Cinder and Kinder"

Another wonderful read. All I can say is that I admire and respect you even more after reading this post. Glad I have been mostly lucky when it comes to teachers as most of them were real character builders and great teachers. Still, I wish I had got a chance to study from you as well 🙂

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i wish i were ur student…. u are such a excellent teacher and a lovely beautiful friend too..i m sure all of ur students like u very much…i enjoy reading ur articles, please go on… miss u too, ms tanveer:)♥

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I am humbly gratified my dear Fariha darling and my angel Anna for encouraging me. wish you heaps of love with very warm wishes to follow your way every momenet with joy health n success ameen ameena meen

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its too good..:)

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i thank you my dear Kainat for taking out time n reading the blog n encouraging me:)

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You are such a wonderful person with kind heart. May all teachers and school learn from your inspiration.

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I am humbly grateful to you funfilledtravel for your kind comment. wish you have all the treasures of joy 🙂

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Salaam Anno Auntie,

This is a beautiful entry! You have such a wonderful and caring personality. And being an aspiring teacher myself, I couldn’t have learned from anyone better, than you 🙂 I cannot wait to read your next entry inshAllah

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Well done! i like how you related the two terms so beautifully.I remember your school and in moments of nostalgia, I long for the good old days.You have done an amazing job teaching,educating and nurturing many who are now adults with young children. Keep writing!

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maza agaya tum dono k comments perh ker. thank you Ayesha DD 🙂 u knw wht does DD stand for:) dear darling hahahahaha and my dil ka jani bacha Areej. love you both

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too good……..since i met u at lahore i really admire u a lot & reading the blog made u more respectable for me ……. it’s really touching …….take care

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my dear Vinay , so good to read your comment, and believe you me not the comment but its YOU VINAY:) i’m so happy to be in contact again. i hope it continues:) i sent you many emails but they come back. have you blocked me which im sure you cant coz when hearts are close nothing can be blocked. i remember the good time we had in Lahore. wish you all the happiness n success Vinay my son

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Hello Anno Baji, this is another wonderful entry! You have such a nurturing and caring personality- fit for a teacher! Your students were a lucky bunch, because I know for a fact you provided them with love, care and respect. Good teachers are always remembered by their students…teachers are such a vital part of life as they not only teach science/math/english,etc, but they teach life lessons and values!

Can’t wait to read more!!

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V.true a teacher has to play many roles. My Dear Madam u r always like my mother & you always treat me like your own son (bilal) its an honor for me.. May ALLAH always bless you.. 🙂

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my dear Sadiq, thank you for such kind words. yes you are right you are very dear to me like my own son Bilal. may Allah bless you what ever you wish for ameen ameen ameen

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[…] Cinder and Kinder […]

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I loved it , and I admire. You were surely our favorite in school.
Yes, it is true a good teacher has to play so many roles. We are lucky that you taught us.
I still remember once , a teacher was absent and you took one of our a period,

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my dear Waqas Naqi thank you so much for reading n encouraging me. i love children n flowers coz they are true reflection of Allah’s love n purity 🙂 love you

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You define a Superior Teacher, and I wish there were many more like you! If all teachers would take children under their wings and teach them individually this world would be full of knowledgeable, stronger, and loving people. Thank you for all the love and support, Edie

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my most sincere regards Edie dear

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This is SUCH an engaging post! Thank you so much for sharing your valuable experiences and helpful advices! A teacher sure has to play a lot of roles, and it is true that a teacher can build the characters of each ‘individually different’ diamond-to-be. I regard my teachers that have done the best for me. It is later that a student understands what hard work her teachers have had done for her! Thankyou again for sharing!
-Maria.

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I am humbled:) thank you so much

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Superb! So skilfully you have discovered the truth that each child is a world in itself. Children and flowers are true reflection of the Creator. The closer you get to them the more you cherish and relish.. I admire such a creative piece and the experiences you shared sound more worthy and educative.. Yes, a person who acts as a real teacher should act as a craftsman who skilfully discovers the latent ability of a child…

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honest to God, you have touched my heart Zaib. you understood me and got my message. I wish who ever reads my blogs get my message too. title of blogs is, Just bliss 🙂

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